Got the Sunday Blues? 7 Signs it’s Time to Leave Your Job

It’s Sunday night, but instead of getting amped to catch a new episode of Breaking Bad, you’re just feeling the impending doom of the work week to come.

Your job—the one you once saw as an exciting leg up on a promising career path—now seems like a rut that your feet are glued to, rather than a career-propelling rung into that corner office.

But with a staggering amount of employees unhappy over their current gigs—Gallup’s 2013 State of the American Workforce survey found that 70% of workers are either “not engaged” or “actively disengaged” from a job—how do you know if it’s just a bad week or a larger problem?

We spoke to career experts to help us suss out the seven surefire signs that it’s time to clean out your cubicle.

1. You’re Habitually Contracting the Sunday Blues

If you find yourself losing sleep over job-related anxiety and dreading that elevator ride up to your office each and every Monday morning, it’s time to take a closer look at exactly what’s bothering you.

“It could mean that Mondays are particularly stressful due to a recurring event—like the weekly budget meeting that afternoon,” says Janine Moon, a master certified career coach and author of Career Ownership: Creating “Job Security” in Any Economy. “But if the depression is continual, and nothing seems to shift it, then it’s likely time to be honest with yourself about finding a work environment that energizes you—even on Sunday evenings.”

2. You Spend More Time Daydreaming Than Doing Your Job

If you routinely breeze through the bulk of your workload by 11 AM, only to spend the rest of your day clicking through Grumpy Cat slideshows on BuzzFeed, it’s safe to say your job is no longer as fulfilling as it once was.

“When boredom or frustration replaces your ability to produce good work or serve your customers, you may need to start planning how you can move on,” says Moon. “This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t try to relieve your boredom or add challenges to the work you’re assigned by speaking to your boss about taking on new projects—but if you’ve spoken to a supervisor about what you can do to increase your contributions, and it’s been ignored or denied, another organization may provide a better partnership opportunity for you.”

3. You Just Passed the 10-Year Mark at Your Company (Without a Promotion)

Sure, having a steady gig is great, but complacency can also be dangerous. You need to make sure that you’re still growing your expertise with new tasks and assignments, rather than just going through the motions.

“You should be learning at least one new transferable skill—such as client relations, public speaking, marketing, finance, or sales—every year, as well as gaining new responsibilities and management opportunities with time,” says career expert Alexandra Levit, author of Blind Spots: The 10 Business Myths You Can’t Afford to Believe on Your New Path to Success. “If you are stuck at a plateau in your position—and you’ve talked to your boss about it, but neither of you can come up with a solution—you’ve outgrown your situation.”

4. Your Co-Workers Secretly Refer to You as the Department’s Debbie Downer

When colleagues start to avoid you in the break room because your irritability has spiked due to constant stress or bitterness over the last round of promotions you were excluded from, it’s time for a change.

“If you’re so unhappy that you’ve entered a spiral of negativity, pay attention to how much that attitude is impacting the people around you,” says Michael “Dr. Woody” Woodward, an executive coach, organizational psychologist, and author of The YOU Plan: A 5-Step Guide to Taking Charge of Your Career in the New Economy. “When you’re not acting like yourself, and you’re getting shorter and snappier with peers thanks to a conflict with a co-worker or new boss, ask yourself if it’s worth staying at a place that’s impacting your mental health, your self-control, and possibly even relationships at home.”

5. You’re One of the Last One’s Standing

You survived the latest round of layoffs within your company—but to what end? “Even if you were able to keep your job, survivors of massive layoffs often find themselves in a position where fewer employees mean that their own duties have doubled to pick up the slack—usually with fewer resources to delegate tasks, and occasionally even for less pay,” says Dr. Woody. “As companies strive to operate leaner and leaner, those new responsibilities are often ones you’ll never get rid of, so if you’re consistently overwhelmed and there’s no end in sight—such as new hires—look for other employment options before it becomes a toxic environment.”

Another reason to put out feelers for a new place of employment: If your company has just been bought out and there are rumblings of merging similar positions, it’s time to start the job hunt. Pay attention to what isn’t being said, advises Moon. So, if senior management has suddenly gone mum on what the new changes mean even after you’ve requested updates—such as a lack of discussion on new strategies or budgets—the outlook isn’t positive.”

6. Your Relationship With Your Boss Resembles That of a Bad Boyfriend or Girlfriend

If you find your self-esteem so beaten down that you no longer feel like contributing in meetings for fear of saying something wrong to your emotionally abusive boss, head for the exit—and quickly. But if the breakdown in your relationship with a supervisor has been more subtle, try talking it out first.

“The fact is that most people leave their jobs due to a bad or disappointing relationship with a direct manager,” says Moon. “As people grow and change, sometimes that can be threatening to managers and cause strain in your relationship—even without them realizing it.” Moon’s advice: If you’ve noticed a sudden shift in a previously good relationship, try for a “heart-to-heart” with your manager. “If the person denies there’s anything uncomfortable going on,” she says, “then it’s time to look for something that satisfies your current and future needs.”

7. You Often Find Yourself Asking, “What Weekend?”

If work stresses are relentlessly bleeding into your evenings and weekends—or even vacations—well after you’ve tried to set personal boundaries, start the search for a job that can offer a more fulfilling work-life blend.

“You have to find a healthy balance outside of work, so you can relieve job stresses before they become overly draining,” says Dr. Woody. “Some people get so consumed by their job—especially in today’s 24/7 world, where every time an email notification beeps, we pick up our phone like a Pavlovian dog—that they burn out quickly.” Dr. Woody suggests checking in with yourself every month, or at least once a quarter, and asking: Am I accomplishing what I need? Am I still passionate about it? “If you’re not enjoying the journey or having fun along the way,” he adds, “once you reach your so-called career ‘destination,’ you’ll only be disappointed.”

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How to Maintain Work-Life Balance Like a Pro

Many people think that maintaining a work-life balance is primarily based on cutting out activities from one’s schedule. Indeed, setting priorities, simplifying your schedule, and learning time management techniques are all a significant part of work-life balance, in that these steps may be required to minimize the “work” portion enough to allow the “life” component to have a balanced role.

However, even those who have a heavy amount of work requirements that cannot be eliminated can maintain a comfortable level of work-life balance—it’s an ongoing endeavor. Being busy with work and life can still include maintaining a balance.

1. Understand What Work-Life Balance Means

Maintaining a work-life balance isn’t a static goal—maintaining balance means having the flexibility to constantly shift when necessary so that you can accommodate life’s unexpected challenges without experiencing burnout, excessive anxiety, depression, or other negative effects of too much stress.

When we have too many obligations that require energy, time, and other internal resources, we can approach burnout. But when we live a life geared toward avoiding all such obligations when possible, we risk having a life devoid of meaning and satisfaction.

One important key to balancing between maintaining a life of overwhelming activity and a life of not enough meaning and excitement is to balance the amount of time and energy you spend on activities that feel like work with activities that nourish you and feel like play. There are a few different ways to accomplish this.

2. Engage in Leisure Activities

When people think of work-life balance, leisure time is often the first thing that comes to mind, as it should. There is research behind the idea that leisure time promotes stress management and stress management activities can increase productivity and resource-building, so it’s important to make time to do things we find enjoyable and relaxing.

3. See Where You Can Multitask

Multitasking was once seen as the magic ticket to time management: a great way to virtually double one’s available time. Then it became known that we are actually less efficient when trying to do two things at once and would be often better off single-tasking both activities than trying to combine two things at once, particularly when both demand a high degree of attention.

There are, however, times when multitasking can work well, and these are the times to identify and utilize! It’s often helpful to pair two tasks that don’t take a lot of focus, such as listening to an audiobook and cleaning house, or reviewing one’s to-do list and schedule while waiting in line at the store.

Multitasking may not be something that works all the time, but it shouldn’t be discounted entirely, either; it just takes a little thought to plan it into your schedule.

4. Look at Your Priorities

One of the more important ways you can maintain work-life balance is to cut out unnecessary obligations. Chances are, you don’t have anything in your life that doesn’t seem entirely necessary at this point, and that’s understandable. However, in thinking about what you could cut out if you needed to, it’s helpful to think about the following:

  • Examine your priorities. Are they connected to a core goal? Are they vital to one of the most important aspects of your life?
  • What are your feelings about your commitments: which ones drain your energy and which ones feed it?
  • What would happen if you cancel a given commitment: what’s the cost-benefit analysis? Is it worth the time it takes from other potentially important activities in your life, including exercise, time spent with family and friends, and leisure activities you wish you could enjoy?

When you take a look at your priorities and figure out what is important to you, you can then say “no” to some things, which will allow you to say “yes” to others.

5. Delegate When Possible

Delegating tasks is something that comes naturally to some and very uncomfortable to others, so it’s a somewhat under-used strategy for some of those who could benefit from it the most. Delegating tasks—asking others to take on some of your workloads—can take many forms.

Can you offer trades with anyone, where you handle some of their workloads that you enjoy more, and they handle some of yours? Can you hire it out? Are there people who would be willing to pitch in if you asked them? Think about what tasks in your life need doing, and which could be done by someone other than you.

6. Plug Your Energy Drains

Life coaches help their clients get their lives into a more streamlined, functional state, and one of the more important ways they do this is to help clients identify and manage their tolerations—those things in life that drain our energy on a daily basis.

Your tolerations, or energy drains, may take the form of difficult people you must deal with (but could avoid, if you tried), messy rooms (which suck up your time when you lose something, but could be cleaned in an afternoon), or many other things that chip away at your available energy.

If you have several tolerations in your life, you may want to take a day or two to identify them and eliminate them. Once they’ve been minimized, you’ll have more energy for other things, and more balance in your life.

Improving stress management and increasing coping mechanisms can also help. If you have better-coping strategies, you feel more balanced and are better able to manage daily hassles.

7. Introduce Gratifications

Taking on new activities can fill up your schedule, but it can also fill you with life satisfaction. Gratifications are such activities; they take some time and energy but leave us feeling happier and less stressed.

Gratifications are pastimes that utilize our strengths and creativity in just the right way, leaving us fulfilled and making the time fly by. As your stress levels are minimized and your sense of fulfillment is maximized, you’ll be glad you did.

When you’re working on your work-life balance, it’s important to avoid comparing yourself to others or even to yourself during different situations. Keep in mind that work-life balance can mean different things to different people, and can look very different at different times in your life.

Source: verywellmind.com ~ By: Elizabeth Scott, PhD ~ Image: Canva Pro

What Are the Sunday Scaries?

Do you find that as your weekends come to an end, your feelings of anxiousness start to go up? Anxiety on Sunday nights is sometimes referred to as the “Sunday Scaries.” Learn what causes Sunday anxiety and how to help it go away.

What Are Sunday Scaries?

The Cleveland Clinic defines Sunday Scaries as “feelings of intense anxiety and dread that routinely occur every Sunday.”(1) While these feelings generally begin to appear later in the day, someone with higher levels of anxiety may start to experience them earlier, even upon waking.

Along with having anxiety on Sunday nights, someone with the Sunday Scaries might notice other symptoms as well. Symptoms of Sunday anxiety can range from increased sweating, upset stomach, headache, and trouble sleeping to more severe manifestations such as depression or even a heart attack.(1)

One survey found that eight in ten professionals have the Sunday Scaries, with younger generations experiencing them more, affecting 94% of Gen Z and 91% of millennials compared to 72% of Gen X and 69% of baby boomers.(2)

Causes of Anxiety on Sunday Nights

There are a few potential reasons for feelings of anxiety on Sunday nights. Among them are:

  • Dealing with a high-stress job: If you have work-related anxiety, knowing that you have to return to your job the following day could cause this anxiety to begin to appear in advance. You start to think about the projects you have to work on or the things you need to get done and this triggers feelings of anxiousness.
  • Having a busy week ahead: Even if you don’t have to work, knowing that you have a lot to do in the days ahead can lead to anxiety on Sunday nights. Maybe your days are packed with family obligations or a home project that you’re working to finish. As you begin to go through your long to-do list, you start to feel tense as a result.
  • Not handling things the week before: For more than one in three people, Sunday anxiety occurs when they begin thinking about everything they didn’t get done the week before.(2) All that unfinished business gets transferred forward and added to this week’s to-do list, so you start to feel overwhelmed.
  • Struggling to balance work and home: More than two in five people who experience the Sunday Scaries have anxiety that stems from trying to balance work and home.(2) You start to think about all your obligations in both settings and the anxiety begins to well up.

How To Ease Sunday Anxiety

If you have the Sunday Scaries, you can start to ease your late-weekend anxiety by taking a few steps.

Make Sleep a Priority

Some people sleep less during the week, then try to remedy this by getting more shut-eye over the weekend. Yet, studies show that taking this approach doesn’t stop the effects of regularly skimping on sleep.(3)

This is why it’s important to make sleep a priority all week long. You can do this by creating healthy sleep habits such as having the same bedtime and wake-up time on weekdays and weekends, creating an environment that makes you want to sleep, and establishing a relaxing nighttime routine.

Do a “Brain Dump”

Does your mind tend to race on Sunday nights, causing your anxiety to shoot up? You can clear these thoughts by doing a “brain dump” says Rachel Goldman, PhD, FTOS, a licensed psychologist specializing in stress management and changing unhealthy behaviors.

Take a few minutes on Sunday night and write down all the things that are contributing to your anxiety. Putting your thoughts on paper gets them out of your mind, freeing it for more feel-good emotions. It also relieves any worries that you might forget something on your to-do list because it is now written down.

Separate Home and Work

Sunday Scaries can occur when worries about work extend into our time off. By striving to keep work and home separate, you can reduce your anxiety on Sunday nights. This helps by training your brain that work-related thoughts are off-limits during your time at home.

When you notice your brain shifting to work on Sunday afternoon or evening, immediately push those thoughts from your head. Tell yourself that Monday will be here soon enough and you can deal with your work-related issues then.

If you work from home, separating your personal and professional life may be more difficult. It can help to create a designated workspace for when you are “on the job.” Not going into this space on Sunday keeps your mind off work, also relieving your Sunday anxiety.

Address Workplace Bullying

Workplace bullying is associated with higher levels of anxiety.(4) When you know that someone is going to mistreat you or push you around when you return to work on Monday, it is only natural to experience anxiety on Sunday nights.

If you face this type of behavior at work, ways to confront workplace bullying include:

    • Reporting the bully to a supervisor
    • Setting personal boundaries
    • Surrounding yourself with people who support you

Depending on your situation, regulatory agencies such as the Equal Opportunity Employment Commission and the U.S. Department of Labor may be able to help. If you can’t get the bully to stop, you might also consider contacting your local police or an attorney for assistance.

Turn Off Work Notifications

Are your Sunday Scaries triggered by receiving emails, texts, or other work notifications before your new week even begins? While these notifications may help you stay updated Monday through Friday, they can also cut your weekend short, returning your mind to work before your body has to physically reappear.

Unless you absolutely cannot turn off your workplace notifications, such as if you are on call, put them on mute every Friday when you leave work. This can prevent them from interrupting your time off, reducing your Sunday anxiety in the process.

For some people, “spending an hour checking emails or reviewing your upcoming work schedule can help alleviate the ‘Sunday Scaries,'” says Dr. Goldman, “because you know what you’re walking into on Monday.” If this sounds like you, setting aside a designated period of time on Sunday nights may help.

Practice Relaxation Strategies

If you experience anxiety on Sunday nights, another option is to use this time to engage in activities that are designed to relax you. By getting your mind and body to release the tension they hold, your anxiety can slip away as well, providing some much-desired relief.

Three effective strategies for feeling more relaxed both mentally and physically are progressive muscle relaxationdeep breathing, and guided imagery.(5)  If other activities relax you, such as taking a warm bath or listening to soothing music, you might want to do them too.

“No matter what you pick, make sure it is relaxing and distracting,” says Dr. Goldman. “You don’t want to be in the bathtub and have your mind still at work. Find things that truly relax you and take you out of your work head.”

Stay Active on Sundays

Sometimes, all you need is a little distraction to keep your mind from wandering to work before you actually have to punch back in. Instead of spending your Sunday evenings doing nothing (or mindlessly watching TV), plan something that will keep your brain engrossed enough that work cannot enter in.

This might be a good time to meet up with friends and have a few laughs, finishing your weekend on a high note instead of wrestling with Sunday anxiety. You might also look for fun events in your area or take a Sunday night class.

If you’d rather be at home, spend your Sunday nights engaged in a hobby you enjoy. One hobby good for relieving stress is drawing.(6) If you enjoy woodworking, writing, gardening, or something else, you can do that instead.

Create a Weekly Plan

For some people, Sunday Scaries occur because they have a lot to do during the week but are unsure how they’ll get it all done. This is where weekly planning comes in handy. By creating an outline of how you’ll tackle your to-do list, your brain is able to relax.

Make a note of things you need to do each day. If you’re working on a bigger project, breaking it down into a series of small steps can help keep you from feeling overwhelmed. It also gives you a bunch of smaller wins throughout your week, which motivates you to keep moving forward.

Make Mondays a Day You Look Forward To

If you get anxious on Sunday nights because you dread the start of a new work week, schedule Monday activities that you will look forward to. This turns your Sunday anxiety into excitement as you anticipate the event you’ve scheduled for the next day.

Make Monday the day you meet a good friend for lunch or save some of your favorite television shows to watch after work. Monday could also be the day that you take a class that makes you feel good and naturally relieves stress and anxiety, such as one that involves exercise or art.

Leave Breathing Room in Your Week

While staying busy during the week can help you get things done, if your weekdays are too full, it can lead to Sunday anxiety. You know that you’re about to face non-stop activities and your brain starts to gear up for it.

One way to combat this is to give yourself a little breathing room in your weekly schedule. Leave some open time between meetings or other obligations so you don’t feel as rushed. Also, block out a few nights each week where you don’t schedule anything, giving your body and mind time to recharge.

When to Seek Help

If you face extreme anxiety on Sunday nights or you’ve tried everything to get rid of the Sunday Scaries with no luck, a mental health professional can help. A counselor or therapist can help get to the source of your Sunday anxiety and provide tips for overcoming it.

There are several types of therapy effective for easing anxiety, including cognitive behavioral therapy(7) and art therapy,(8) along with many others. So, you don’t have to just accept anxiety as part of your Sunday routine. Instead, learn how to deal with your feelings of anxiousness in a way that keeps them at bay, giving you the opportunity to enjoy yourself all weekend long.

Source: verywellmind.com ~ By: Kristen Fuller, MD ~ Image: Canva Pro

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5 Strategies To Beat The Sunday Night Blues

In theory, the time between Friday evening and Monday morning should be all yours. Sunday afternoon rolls around and instead of relishing that time with family, friends, your significant other, or beloved pets, you have these thoughts racing through your head:

“What meetings do I have tomorrow?”

“What deliverables do I owe my boss?”

“What time do I have to wake up to make that morning meeting?”

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), stress has been classified as the health epidemic of the 21st century. Studies show that job stress is by far the major source of stress for American adults and that it has escalated progressively over the last few decades. A report by the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH) revealed that 40% of workers reported their job was very or extremely stressful and 25% view their jobs as the number one stressor in their lives. So, it’s not surprising that we’re seeing a phenomenon called the Sunday night blues (or Sunday scaries)— that anxiety you experience on Sunday when thinking about the impending workweek. It’s not a figment of your imagination. It’s real. According to a poll by Monster, 76% of Americans report having “really bad” Sunday night blues. Here are five strategies that will help you beat that Sunday evening anxiety so you can truly enjoy your well-earned weekend time.

1.      Schedule a fun activity

If you are sitting around your house lying on the sofa, it will be much more likely for those unsettling thoughts to creep in. Try planning a fun distraction or activity to keep your focus on something positive. Devote that time to your favorite hobby, go to the movies, spend time outside or grab drinks with friends. Schedule a weekend getaway. Pay attention to when you start feeling anxious so you can plan activities that you can look forward to.

2.      Disconnect from email

Just because your boss is on email doesn’t mean you have to be. Once you start responding to work emails Sunday evening, guess what—your manager is going to expect it. Instead, create a precedent where you check email during the week and weekends are for personal activities. Set boundaries and stick to them. If you can take time to recharge on the weekend, your Monday morning at work will be that much more productive.

3.      Plan for the week ahead

How can I possibly disconnect from the email you say? Try planning your week in advance. Schedule time Friday afternoon to set goals and deadlines for the week ahead. Clean out your inbox so you can start fresh on Monday. You can even draft emails and schedule to send them at a future date. Organizing your thoughts and preparing for upcoming meetings, will help set you up for a good weekend.

4.      Employ mindfulness techniques

Mindfulness helps us to live in the present versus the future. Here are some examples of simple meditation exercises from Mayo Clinic that can help prepare you for a successful workweek :

  • Do a body scan meditation. Lie on your back with your legs extended and arms at your sides, palms facing up. Focus your attention slowly and deliberately on each part of your body, in order, from toe to head or head to toe. Be aware of any sensations, emotions, or thoughts associated with each part of your body.
  • Practice a sitting meditation. Sit comfortably with your back straight, feet flat on the floor, and hands in your lap. Breathing through your nose, focus on your breath moving in and out of your body. If physical sensations or thoughts interrupt you, take note of them and then return your focus to your breath.
  • Go on walking meditation. Find a quiet place (preferably outside in nature) and begin to walk slowly. Focus on the experience of walking, being aware of the sensations of standing, and the subtle movements that keep your balance. Feel the ground beneath you and focus on being in the present moment.

5.      Consider a new career or job opportunity

If you have an extreme case of the Sunday night blues, it may be a sign that you need to change your job or even your career. Start by examining why you are experiencing that dread. Do you feel stuck in your job? Are you overwhelmed by your workload?  Is your boss a nightmare to work for? Are you being bullied by a co-worker? Make a list of the things that may be triggering your sadness or depression. Once you get to the root of your distress, you can do something about it. It may even be time to consider starting a business so you can experience the freedom, flexibility, and fulfillment of being your own boss.

Whether you change your mindset or your career, it is possible to look forward to Mondays. Don’t settle. Time is precious, and every day you wake up is a gift. Make it count!

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