How to Live Life on Your Own Terms & Never Have Regrets Again

What if you could live life on your own terms and never look back or lose direction again? It’s absolutely possible but many people get the concept of living life on your own terms wrong. Let’s fix that.

To live on your own terms is not when you’re following other people’s advice only because they’ve got more experience. But when you’re carefully calculating and strategizing and then deciding on your own.

It’s not when you’re wasting your present in regrets for the past, but focusing on action that can change the future outcome.

It’s not when you’re traveling the world thinking you’re free or independent, but using someone else’s money or help somehow. It’s when you’ve been saving for some time, and then go somewhere far away, spend at least a few weeks there, enjoy every second and every challenge on the way (there will be many if you do it right), and come back a better person.

The truth about “living on your own terms”

It would be fair to say that I was born to live on my own terms.

That seems to be the major lesson in this incarnation. I can’t remember a time when I was not highly evaluatory, an odd sort of child who at a very young age could spot hypocrisy (“They say I shouldn’t yell at my sister. They yell at me when they say this. Why is it okay for them to yell, but not me?”). I remember noticing how often adults said one thing, yet did another. I especially noticed how adults didn’t like it when I was honest.

Thankfully, there is some way in which no one ever managed to break my spirit. Adults could make me do what they wanted me to do, but they could never make me agree. I was the one in charge of that, and I always knew it.

Freedom. Liberation. Spaciousness. These are all words to describe “life lived on your own terms,” and in my case, they’ve been the backbone of every good decision I’ve ever made.

My soul made it clear: I needed to do this go-around on my own terms. Perhaps that’s you, too.

But make no mistake–living on your terms is not without “costs,” in a world where there are the consequences of judgment from others. For some people, even reading the line “I had to do it my way” will make them seethe, wondering who the hell I think I am and conjuring up all manner of Stories that I must be a selfish person who thinks only of myself.

But here’s what I know about “doing it my way”–offered for those who would also like to “do it their way”:

1.) Doing it “my way” includes space for collaboration and cooperation. That is “my way.” It’s probably “your way,” too. It’s the way that brings a lot of love into my life. Most people–especially people who want you to do it “their way” and who are upset when you won’t–will misunderstand this.

In such cases–because they are invested in their Story–they won’t see all the ways that you ARE about promoting collaboration and cooperation. Any evidence that contradicts their Story will get ignored. It’s largely unintentional. People can’t see what they can’t see.
Note: This “invested in their Story” bit? Really important. Keep reading.

2.) Some people will have their own definition of “cooperate”: “Cooperative = doing things the way I want you to. Anything else means that you’re selfish.”

It’s an unfortunate misunderstanding for those of us who “do it our way,” because at the times when we don’t “cooperate,” selfishness (in the conventional sense of the word) is not the motivation.

What’s really happened is that I’ve given it thought and determined that to collaborate or “cooperate,” is really just not in alignment with my values or for my vision for a particular situation.

It’s never personal–but some people will take it that way, because they have invested themselves in a Story.

Especially at first, this is painful to experience.

3.) But–another thing I’ve learned–being disliked or called selfish will not be the worst thing in the world.

You will actually survive, and eventually come to see that people don’t dislike YOU, they dislike experiencing the Story they tell themselves about you.

You will probably go through a period where you require a lot of second-guessing, because you’re a smart enough cookie to know that sometimes, you do behave selfishly–just like everyone else does, at times.

The second-guessing will be about determining those times when “selfish” is your truth to reckon with and make amends over, and the times when it’s someone else’s accusation, designed to manipulate your behavior to their liking.

This is okay. This time of second-guessing will feel awkward, but you will become increasingly familiar with what is yours, and what is not yours, and that will be powerful.

4.) If you “live on your own terms” long enough, you will start to see themes emerge with the people you interact with. The themes will have some consistency to them, regardless of content.

Here’s an example of how these themes would play out, using the instance of someone feeling that you might have been “selfish.”

The people who are not invested in their Stories about you will, if they have a judgment that you are Selfish, ask questions to clear up their own miscommunications, take ownership of their judgments rather than making it your responsibility to change/fix their feelings, and make requests that are aimed at connection that works for everyone.

Their requests will not be oriented around getting an apology from you or a specific result–again, their requests will be aimed at what promotes connection.

The people who are invested in keeping their Stories are going to continue to run those Stories even when presented with evidence to the contrary, to use them against you, and they will not ask questions to clear up their own misunderstandings.

They are walking with the belief that they have no misunderstandings, and that you alone are the one who misunderstands.

The people who are invested in their Stories get on the phone or arrive at the coffee shop with a distant energy that lets you know that you have already fucked it up in their mind. They’re trying to manipulate you into seeing them as the injured party, and you into being “sorry.”

This manipulation actually has nothing to do with you. It’s their wound. It’s what they think they need, to be okay.

5.) If you “live on your own terms,” you’ll need to learn a sort of internal, ninja jujitsu with such people, because the answer is actually *not* to write them off just because they are practicing unkindness.

The second you think that the answer is to tell them to fuck off, you’re joining them where they’re at. You’re investing in your own Story, and that Story will imprison you, even as you look to live “on your own terms.”

Freedom can be caged in many ways, and the most pernicious cages are those that we put ourselves in. Retaliatory disconnection is such a cage.

The ninja jujitsu is to simply pour on the love–without trying to fix them. Take responsibility for them. Be different for them.

Just keep pouring on the love. Do your best.

6.) Living “on your own terms,” paradoxically, also includes *not* doing things on your own terms, in a way that is… “on your own terms.” There are times when you’ll realize that doing something that you don’t particularly want to do–but doing it for some reason that supports another one of your values–will end up being another expression of living “on your own terms.”

You’ll eat the food you don’t like. You’ll go along with the family plans, when you really feel like staying home with a book. You’ll burn the midnight oil to meet a deadline and wake up the next day, and do it all again. These wouldn’t be your first preferences.

But–

–you’ll be doing this from a place of conscious choosing, not from obligation. You’ll do it knowing that resentment will come up, and with a willingness to deal with it as it arises, and release it, because you’ve chosen–and chosen consciously.

This is really what “living on your own terms” boils down to.

It’s not about always doing what you want.

It’s not about never doing what anyone else wants.

It’s not about rebellion or bucking a trend.

It’s not about being a loner who isolates because the only other (perceived) option is to bow to the needs of others.

Living on your “own terms” is really about consciously choosing your terms, rather than accepting terms by default, or just doing what other people want so that you won’t rock the boat (note: that’s just manipulation).

It’s about consciously seeing the times when “terms” are helpful, and the times when they are not and it’s time to say, “No terms for me. Sorry. Gotta go renegade on this one.”

Yes–there are consequences. Some people are going to have none of it, and you might be sitting there, thinking that this is not an acceptable trade-off. You might be incredibly fearful that you will lose people you love.

But I have this hunch that if you muster up more love than you can imagine, and you’re ferocious and fierce about that love, and unwilling to get sucked into anyone else’s drama as you stay true to your own internal compass, something really lovely actually is possible.

They don’t need to see it.

Only you do; your love will carry you both, it its own strange and mysterious way.

That choice? To love anyway and to align with your own values? That’s the best way of “living on my own terms” that I know.

Source: yourcourageouslife.com  ~ Image: Canva Pro

How to Live on Your Own Terms

Some people spend much of their lives in unnecessary anguish over others’ expectations of them. Or, worse, they just let life happen to them and follow along passively. The only way you can even begin to start living life on your own terms is to recognize that it’s your life. You are the one who can make your life better, and, alternatively, you are also the one who can make your life worse. Take hold of your innate power and start living the life you want today.

1. Affirming Your Individuality

Recognize your freedom to choose. The three C’s of life are blatantly true: Choices. Chances. Changes. You have to be the one that makes a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change. Only you have that power. And it’s yours to do with as you please. Everyone else has the same choice. Living life on your own terms starts with the knowledge that you can do just that (i.e. live life on your own terms), if you so choose

Everything you see around you in day-to-day life, and every person you frequently make contact with is there because of a choice you made. If you don’t like how your life is, make the choice to change it. Now.

Stand on your own two feet. When you are steadily requiring guidance from those around you, you give up control of how your life plays out. This can translate to letting others make decisions for you, depending on others for financial help, or waiting on them before you make a move. Always maintain control of your life. Even when you ask for others’ advice, thoughtfully consider their suggestions, but always be the one who makes the final decision.[1]

Assess your values. Who you are as a person, what kind of people you surround yourself with, what you do for a living, what you are passionate about: all of these are guided by your personal values. Values are traits – in yourself and others – that you hold dear. Along with your individual belief system, values influence your entire life.

  • Learn what your values are by taking a personal values assessment.[2] Understanding your values helps you grasp a deeper understanding of yourself, what motivates you, and what your dreams are. Do an internet search for “personal values assessment” and you should get a list of different tests you can take.
  • Think about common values that a lot of people share, like integrity, empathy, and dedication, then assess how you relate to those values and which ones are important to you.[3]

Dream big.[4] [5] As you move towards living life on your own terms, you must get a handle on exactly what that means to you. Does that mean moving to another country? Does that mean dropping out of your current major to take up a new subject? Or, does that simply meaning cutting the puppet strings that someone else has used to control your decisions?

  • Sit down with a pen and paper and consider your wildest dreams for your life. Write them all down.
  • This step is merely for exploration purposes. It does not matter right now if you do not have a clear-cut plan for reaching these dreams. You just need to uncover, at this very moment, what it is you want out of your life.

2. Getting Your Head Right

Let go of others’ expectations. Okay, so here’s the tough part. You need to make the decision today to no longer care what others think of you. This can be a very difficult practice, especially if you have lived a life governed by the opinions of your parents, teachers or friends. However, doing so is a necessary step to actually living by the beat of your own drum. Always trying to please others is an unbearable task in which you are designed to fail. Here’s how to stop letting others’ expectations haunt you:[6] [7]

  • Recognize that worrying about what others think immobilizes you. Simply put, you are not able to take effective action in your life when your moves are guided by other players. Consider that one person wants you to go right, and another equally significant person wants you to go left. What happens? You reach a stalemate and don’t move at all.
  • Trust your instincts. If you know what your core values are, then you can trust your own decision-making skills as long as those decisions align with your values. If you feel uncomfortable about something you’re doing or thinking about doing, cool your heels and refrain from making a decision until you have considered all the variables.
  • Stop looking for external validation. Early on in life, we count on signals from others (i.e. smiles, rewards, high-fives, etc.) to tell us whether we are doing good or bad. Once again, if you know your values and what you want to reflect in your life, then you have no reason to look to others for validation. Regularly perform your own self-assessments to assure that your actions are complimenting your values and your dreams, and then self-validate to reassure yourself that you are doing what is best for you.

Understand the power of your thoughts.[8] It is said that your thoughts are the architects of your destiny. Some believe that thoughts have a real physical presence and energy, and their focus determines how you feel and behave. The problem with this is that humans often spend too much time thinking about what we don’t want or don’t like as opposed to what we want and like. Take command of your thoughts and success is imminent.

  • Become more aware of your thoughts. Over breakfast, in the shower, or while exercising, focus on the self-talk that is running through your head. Are these thoughts negative? Positive? Neutral?
  • After you have spent some time noticing your thoughts and labeling them, take note of how you feel in your body while you are thinking these thoughts. Do you want to get back in bed and crawl under the covers? Do you want to hug everyone you see? Notice that negative thoughts generally result in a negative mood state and positive thoughts lead to a more positive mood.
  • Aim to be a champion of positive thinking. When you notice your thoughts going down a negative path, challenge how realistic they are.
  • For example, you may think that you’ll never get the job you want. This makes you feel bad, and you lose your motivation to go job-hunting. You can combat such a negative thought by looking for evidence to the contrary. Have you had success in finding other endeavors you enjoy, even if it took time? If so, then it bodes that eventually you might also find a job you like, too.

Stop comparing. Comparison is the thief of joy.[9] When you’re watering your own grass, you can’t be concerned if someone else’s is greener. This can be especially hard with social media, in which a person can carefully curate how their life appears to others (you only see the vacations and fancy dinners, not the fights with their spouse or food poisoning that kept them on the toilet for five hours).[10] As you now know, you can only control one life — yours. Comparing yourself to someone else put your focus on the other person instead of on yourself, where it should be.[11]

  • Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to measure yourself against where you were last month, six months ago, a year ago. After working hard and practicing your basketball skills, you aren’t Steve Curry, but you’re playing far better than you were just a month ago. It’s all about you becoming your best self, not becoming better than someone else.[12]
  • Comparing yourself to others is a game you can never win: there will always be someone smarter, younger, prettier, wealthier, etc. But remember that no one has a perfect life, and the people you think have a perfect life are struggling, too.[13]

3. Making Your Dreams a Reality

Set specific goals with deadlines that challenge you.[14] You may have heard that you should set SMART goals, which means goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results-focused, and Time-bound.[15] So, grab that piece of paper on which you wrote down your wildest dreams. Develop an action plan to meet these goals with clear and measurable steps and a reasonable, yet challenging deadline.

  • Take your goal-setting a step further by finding an accountability partner. Ask a coworker, close friend, or family member if you can email a weekly progress report to them outlining what steps you have taken in reaching your goals. This extra step will motivate you even more.
  • If you can’t find an accountability partner, download an app that helps you stick to your goals.[16]

Do one thing daily that moves you closer to achieving your goals. And do it first. If you are truly serious about living a life on your own terms, then you must be responsible for prioritizing your goals above all. Each week, make sure that the first tasks you perform each day are those with the highest priority/greatest importance. That way, even if you slack off for the remainder of the day, your day was still purposeful.[17]

  • If you have a passion to do something, don’t allow money to deter you from doing it. Also, don’t give in to the belief that you do not have time. If your dreams are important enough to you, you will make time.

Spend time with people who inspire, uplift, and value you. Living a self-directed life can be enhanced by the people who surround you. You can’t expect to see positive changes in your life when you spend most of your time with negative people. Positive energy coming from your friends and loved ones gives you greater confidence, reduces stress, and makes you happier.[18]

  • Of course, it is impossible to keep those who are endlessly critical, unmotivated, or mean-spirited completely out of your life. Just be mindful of their toxicity and monitor your thoughts when you are around them. If you find yourself thinking negatively, challenge those thoughts and reframe them into more positive thoughts.
Take chances. Get out there and collect experiences. If you have been living your life based on other’s approval or expectations, it may be hard for you to take risks. Nonetheless, taking even small risks helps you to build confidence in yourself and your abilities. It also helps you better learn how to navigate different obstacles and refine your abilities.[19]
Learn from your mistakes. More than likely, in the process of taking chances, you will make a few errors. Don’t think too long on your mistakes other than finding ways of using them for growth. You often learn the most when you are put in an uncomfortable situation. Failure is only temporary, so use your losses to help you become better so that the next risk results in a win.

Tips

  • Be patient with your mistakes.

  • A handful of note cards with encouraging phrases written on them can help to counter any negative thoughts that come up during this process. Reread them several times a day until they become incorporated into your automatic thoughts.

  • Give yourself permission to live on your own terms. Don’t wait for anyone else to do it.

  • Expect the progress to be slow if you have been living on others’ terms for most of your life.

  • Develop persistence. Listen to the opposition, but don’t let it stop you.

  • Recognize that you don’t always have to be accepted, but don’t do things that stick out just for the sake of causing a stir. Make sure that your “different” choices are different for the sake of following personal convictions, changing the world, etc. Nobody applauds the “difference” of somebody who is “different” only for the sake of getting attention.

    Warnings
  • “Living on your own terms” should never be an excuse for hostile or grossly irresponsible behavior.

  • It’s not any fun to “be yourself” if “yourself” isn’t a kind, good, and loving person that is accepted.

  • If somebody is putting limitations on “your way”, take into consideration who that person is before telling them to beat it. If it’s a parent, policeman, lawmaker, etc. you might want to actually think about what they have to say. Those in charge are put in charge for a distinct reason, even if you just cannot see it.

References

    1. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sherrie-campbell-phd/empower-your-children-to-stand-on-their-own-two-feet_b_5716205.html
    2. https://www.valuescentre.com/our-products/products-individuals/personal-values-assessment-pva
    3. Lauren Krasny. Executive, Strategic, & Personal Coach. Expert Interview. 27 March 2020.
    4. http://www.briantracy.com/blog/financial-success/are-your-dreams-big-enough-dare-to-dream-bigger-dream-come-true-self-made-millionaires-career-goals/
    5. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201009/15-inspirational-motivational-tips-help-you-dream-big
    6. http://www.fastcompany.com/3040980/how-to-stop-caring-about-what-others-think
    7. http://www.chicagotribune.com/ct-tribu-pagliarini-stop-pleasing-everyone-column-column.html
    8. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-cbt-cheat-sheet/201408/lesson-1-the-power-thoughts
    9. http://www.becomingminimalist.com/stop-comparing-your-life-start-living-it/
    10. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/11/25/3-ways-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-on-social-media/
    11. http://www.becomingminimalist.com/stop-comparing-your-life-start-living-it/
    12. http://www.becomingminimalist.com/stop-comparing-your-life-start-living-it/
    13. http://www.becomingminimalist.com/stop-comparing-your-life-start-living-it/
    14. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201408/3-essential-steps-living-your-own-life
    15. http://www.hr.virginia.edu/uploads/documents/media/Writing_SMART_Goals.pdf
    16. http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/243155
    17. http://jamesclear.com/productivity-tip
    18. https://www.utica.edu/student-blogs/how-to-live-a-happy-life-tip-1-surround-yourself-with-positive-people/
    19. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/13/seven-reasons-why-risk-taking-leads-to-success_n_3749425.html
 Source: wikihow.com ~ Co-authored: Lauren Krasny ~ Image: Canva Pro

50+ Inspirational Quotes About Living Life on Your Own Terms

In this article, you will find 50+ of the most amazingly inspirational quotes about living life on your own terms. You will be inspired to take charge and live your best life to make your dreams come true!

We hear so much about living life on your own terms, but do we know exactly what that means? Are we living life on our own terms? Are we fulfilling our dreams and goals in life? We’ll explore answers to these questions, also.

A wonderful guest writer, Anya Willis, recently wrote an article for Sassy Sister Stuff about 10 purposeful ways to live life on your own terms. She also included 10 related quotes that I found highly motivational.

I was so inspired by her words and the intention of the article that I decided to explore quotes about living life on your own terms and share my 50+ favorites with you. I hope you enjoy the quotes and images I’ve selected and created on Canva.com.

“You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to keep others whole.” ~ Emma Bleker

Quotes About Living Life on Your Own Terms

Before we get to the quotes about living life on your own terms, I want to address the meaning of “living life on your own terms.” 

What exactly does it mean?

“Sometimes you have to stop thinking so much and just go where your heart takes you.” ~ tinybuddha.com

What Does Living Life on Your Own Terms Mean?

Let me be very clear that living life on your own terms does not mean being selfish.

Living life on your own terms means that you choose a way of living that supports your goals and dreams. You choose to create a meaningful and fulfilled life for you and your loved ones. You are able to lead a balanced life of work and family while also accepting that there may be consequences of others judging you and your choices.

Living life on your own terms goes hand-in-hand with positive selfishness. Being positively selfish — doing that which feeds your soul and enriches your life — produces many positive results. It empowers, re-energizes, and motivates you to keep moving forward toward your best self and your goals.

Furthermore, you will sometimes do things that you don’t want to do (even while living life on your own terms). But you’ll be making a conscious decision to do it — not making it from a place of obligation. This is part of living on your own terms — making conscious choices without resentment or frustration.

For further reading on this topic, I recommend an amazing article by Kate Swoboda from Your Courageous Life. She does a phenomenal job of explaining what “living on your own terms” means and what it does not mean. She also explains the consequences that may arise because of your choice to live life on your own terms.

“There are times when you’ll realize that doing something that you don’t particularly want to do — but doing it for some reason that supports another one of your values — will end up being another expression of living ‘on your own terms.’” ~Kate Swoboda

It’s not always about doing what you want to do, or not doing what you don’t want to do. It’s about consciously choosing what you are going to do on your terms based on what’s best for you and your loved ones.

Now let’s move on to these important life quotes! Please note that wherever possible I try to include the accurate name of the author for each quote.

“Do what you feel in your heart to be right — for you’ll be criticized anyway.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Short Inspirational Quotes About Living Life on Your Own Terms

These short inspirational quotes about living life on your own terms can be used on social media — Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc — as captions. Or they can be sent to friends via text for special inspirational messages.

“Destiny is not a matter chance, it is a matter of choice.” ~William Jennings Bryan

“Keep believing, keep achieving.” ~Various

“This is your life. Do what you love and do it often.” ~Unknown

“All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” ~Walt Disney

“Say yes take risks and live life on your own terms.” ~Unknown

“There is no way everyone will approve of what you’re wearing. So just do what makes you happy.”  ~Unknown

“Life’s too short to live someone else’s.” ~Nathan W Morris

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ~Oscar Wilde

“It’s not always clear at first either. Listen to your heart.” ~Unknown

“Opportunity dances with those who are already on the dance floor.” ~H. Jackson Brown

“Why wait and let the chance pass you by more and more? Start now…” ~Unknown

“If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun.” ~Katharine Hepburn

“There’ll be two dates on your tombstone and all your friends will read ’em but all that’s gonna matter is that little dash between ’em.” ~Kevin Welch

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did.” ~Mark Twain

“There is only one success, to be able to spend your life in your own way.” ~Christopher Morley

“Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.” ~Les Brown

“The whole point is to live life and be — to use all the colors in the crayon box.” ~RuPaul

“It’s not about what you tell your children, but how you show them how to live life.” ~Jada Pinkett Smith

“Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin.” ~Grace Hansen

“There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” ~Oprah Winfrey

“You have to be unique and different and shine in your own way.” ~Lady Gaga

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ~Joe Lewis

“Think about it: What’s the worst thing that can happen to you if you just totally go for it?” ~Grant Cardone

“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” ~Jim Rohn

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.” ~Henry David Thoreau

“Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Be true to yourself. Make each day a masterpiece.”  ~John Wooden

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” ~Oprah Winfrey

Motivational Quotes About Living Life on Your Own Terms

Some of these quotes caused me to pause and think about the choices I make and how I want to live my life. Many of them are deeply personal and have several layers of reflection. Take time to really think about each of these quotes and how they can help you maintain a healthy mindset about how to live life your way and be happy!

“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.” ~ Mandy Hale

“I will one day accept death with gratitude if I meet it having lived a life that became truly my own.” ~Dan Pearce

“Remember, if you keep living your life on your terms, people can mock you all they want, but they’ll respect you in the end.” ~Cassidy Calloway

“Why are you doing this to yourself? Ask yourself and make changes.” ~Unknown

“The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.” ~Flora Whittemore

“You know, everybody has setbacks in their life, and everybody falls short of whatever goals they might set for themselves. That’s part of living and coming to terms with who you are as a person.” ~Unknown

“Your ability to make things happen, increases in direct proportion to your awareness that you have the ability to make things happen.” ~Unknown

“3 Ways To Shut Down Your Haters: 1) Accept yourself, 2) Keep being the best you, 3) Live life on your own terms.” ~Germany Kent

“Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid. In the past, whenever I had fallen short in almost any undertaking, it was seldom because I had tried and failed. It was because I had let fear of failure stop me from trying at all.” ~Authur Gordon

“Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.” ~Pope Paul VI

“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

“There are some people who don’t want to deal with the fact that we are not forever. Some people decide to live life to the fullest.” ~Tessa Thompson

“‘Carpe Diem’ is a phrase that I try to embrace. It means seize the day, to make the most of the present and to give little thought to the past or future. In the time that I have here, I want to love and live life to the fullest while being a positive influence on others. And I want a full life for everyone.” ~Matt Czuchry

“We can all tend to get caught up in the complications of life that we create; we live life for other people. It’s a harrowing moment when you’re confronted with an end, and you have to make the choice to live your life for you.” ~Elliot Knight

“I try to explain to people that the only way to be cool is to be who you truly are, and the only way to live life is to do the things that you want to do and be the person that you want to be no matter who that is or what that is or how you have to do it. That’s the only way you can be genuinely happy.” ~Tucker Max

“There’s people who live life authentically and there’s people who live a life of fabrication. And it begins with the question of how you’re gonna do your time. And these are observations I made about Folsom when I was there with Dustin Hoffman when he was directing ‘Straight Time.’” ~Michael Mann

“If you want to be happy you need to think of yourself as a container of energy. There is a universal energy, yes of course, it embraces us. When you appreciate this, life becomes a lot more exciting. You don’t live life, life lives you.” ~Noel Edmonds

“I’m going to be true to what I want to do, because if I care what people think about me, I’m a puppet. Which I have been in my life. And you can’t live life that way, man!” ~Donny Osmond

“There is no reason to ever be ashamed of where you’re at. Not when you’re doing your best. Not when you’re in your best moment. There’s always gonna be people to tell you no. Or “You can’t.” Or “You shouldn’t.” It’s gonna happen. No matter what anybody says, you just have to still be like, “I’m still doing this. I’m still gonna succeed. I’m still gonna do my best.” Defy the odds. Why not?” ~ Jennifer Lopez

“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.” ~Joseph Campbell

“All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” ~Earl Nightingale

“The great courageous act that we must all do, is to have the courage to step out of our history and past so that we can live our dreams.” ~Oprah Winfrey

“The way to choose happiness is to follow what is right and real and the truth for you. You can never be happy living someone else’s dream. Live your own. And you will for sure know the meaning of happiness.” ~Oprah Winfrey

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” ~ Maya Angelou

Final Thoughts: Quotes About Living Life on Your Own Terms

I hope you’ve been inspired by these quotes about living life on your own terms. It’s such an important aspect of living your best life!

This means being true to yourself, listening to your heart, and doing what makes you happy. It is also important to be surrounded by people who support your decisions and who make you feel good about yourself. And so much more! If you can do these things, you will be living a happy and fulfilling life.

Plus, it’s never too late to start living life on your own terms!

What is An Extraordinary Life?

What is An Extraordinary Life? 

Extraordinary Life. Two simple words that beg a lot of complex questions. The most obvious one is: So if there’s such a thing as an “extraordinary life,” then there must also be such a thing as an ordinary life. We may typically say we have ordinary days (e.g., I wake up, eat, go to work, go home, eat, watch TV, sleep; do it again), ordinary cars (the ubiquitous 4-door sedan or mini-van), ordinary tasks (laundry, pay bills, take a shower), ordinary homes (2 or 3-bedroom house, 2-car garage in an “ordinary” suburban neighborhood). Job types can be considered ordinary: sales clerk, waiter, banker, gas station attendant, accountant, a construction worker. We all can easily generate a common image of each one of these people, things, or situations. READ MORE

9 Ways to Live an Extraordinary Life

“Your life sounds like so much fun. You’re so lucky that you get to live an extraordinary life.”

That is something I’ve gotten pretty used to hearing as I travel full-time and get to be a digital nomad.

However, it’s not just luck.

Just a few years ago, I never thought that I would be living this life. I never thought I’d be my own boss or that I’d be traveling full-time. It’s funny how much can change in just a few short years!

For me, this is extraordinary, but everyone has a different version of what living an extraordinary life means. READ MORE

7 Ways to Go From Ordinary to Extraordinary

What does living an extraordinary life really look like?

Well, in order to see the “extra,” let’s look at an ordinary life first. When I say ordinary, I mean you’re in a job you don’t particularly love, you’re plodding along day to day, and you’re just kind of existing.

An extraordinary life, on the other hand, is one you design. You live a life that you want to live, a life that’s exciting and invigorating. You don’t have to live a life of extraordinary wealth, though there’s nothing wrong with that. But you are in charge of your life. You’re doing what you want to do, you’re being paid for doing something you’d be doing anyway, and you’re genuinely happy. To me, the best definition of an extraordinary life is a happy life. READ MORE

13 Simple Things You Can Do To Make Your Life Extraordinary

Have you ever noticed how some people seem to get ahead in life easily and effortlessly no matter what is going on around them? These people are amazing entrepreneurs, artists, innovators, leaders, and even motivators. What is more interesting is that they are often not the most talented, hard-working, or smart people around. Yet, somehow, they achieve much more than the rest of us. What is it that makes their life so extraordinary? How can someone’s life even be extraordinary all the time?

Khalil Gibran says, “Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way, your mind looks at what happens.” The key to success isn’t complex. Rather, it is the cumulative effect of simple daily habits that bring success. If you are ready to live a truly extraordinary, you should follow the example of extraordinary people and do those simple things that perpetuate success and help make your own life extraordinary. READ MORE

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